Phase 1    July 27 -30                         Sacramento, CA
Phase 4    September 14 -17         Sacramento, CA
Phase 1   October 19 - 22              Sacramento, CA


February 15 -18

April 12 - 15

June 7-10         

August 2-5

Oct 11-14

Phase one

Phase three

In this workshop you will have the opportunity to meet other survivors and create a support network.  Phase one subject matters is derived from years of male survivors sharing best practices on crucial areas they felt needed to be addressed, plus collaboration working through the various nine phases.  Some of the subjects covered are: 

  • Goal  Setting: Strategies for working through the issues
  • “My Psychiatrist says I’m Healed, but it don’t feel like it…Why is that?
  • Guilt - Embarrassment - Humiliation -Shame
  • H.O.W to work through my issues
  • Finding Your Voice
  • Who to Blame: Why Me?  Why This? Why God?
  • Real Disclosure That Brings Healing
  • Same Gender Sexual Abuse 
  • Different Gender Sexual Abuse
  • Masculinity:  Am I Still A Dude?
  • Power of Myths and Misinformation that I believe
  • Stages of Dealing with the Emotions
  • Submit one issue that is crucial for you at this state want to cover

Each workshop is designed to move participants through the nine phases.  We strive to help provide you with effective and useful tools, coping strategies, support and creation of a HBM network.  

3 days - 3 nights  (Thursday 6PM  -  Sunday 12PM)
With the intensity of these workshops participants often report this to be the best schedule for maximizing their experience.  We always recommend after completing  a workshop that  when participants return home to take a day to process and reintegrate back into life.  

We recommend Phase 2 occurring about 4 - 6 months after the first workshop. It is scheduled by you and your survivor family group. If members of the group decide not to continue, we can place you with another group that is ready for the next phase.

Phase two



"The abuse distorted my view of the way I relate to people. I'm now learning to love again starting with myself. "

In this workshop, for those who have hung in there, you will have the opportunity to regroup with members from your last group or others who have completed phase two.  In this workshop "YOU"RE ALL IN"  Usually during this phase three everyone submits several issues they may be struggling with that we did not cover or need more help.  This phase is very open as the bonds of trust have been established from attending the previous workshops. It usually reported as the best of the three prior to doing 1:1 intensive coaching with Thomas.

In this workshop you will have the opportunity to regroup with members from your first group or others who have completed phase one.  Some of the subjects covered are: 

  • How are we using the tools, strategies from phase one
  • Strengths to utilize
  • Shame and guilt:  Why are they still there?
  • Sexuality: Beliefs about Sex, Men and Women
  • Intimacy: Sex = Love 
  • Finding Your Second Voice
  • Building safe relationships with other men after the abuse
  • Working through addictive patterns imprinted by the abuse
  • Connecting with my abuse story like never before
  • Facing My Abuser
  • Heart Intimacy 
  • Reframing my abuse history
  • Submit one issue that is crucial at this state you want to cover